I'm glad my post-secondary education was affordable in Canada.
I went to the University of Toronto. All my loans were unsupported by my parents, so I had to hustle. I did work in a small club / bar for four years as a bartender / bar back during that time. Every night between Friday and Saturday left me with around $400 in tips. So I did pretty good. Granted, not everyone has that opportunity, so part of it was that I lucked out, but I was also very stupid with my money.
Most employers that I've talked with, some of which I've received offers from, don't even mention education. On the contrary, many of them begin by saying they don't care about education - much more about your ability to complete the required tasks. This coming from a tech perspective, anyway. I'm sure there's other fields that still hold on to the old classic notion that college = reliable and smart, but there's definitely been a major shift in the last 10-15 years that has really brought down the value of a $50,000 education.
Anyway, I absolutely agree that the cost is bonkers, which also creates a huge imbalance of those whom are able to consume an education. It would be far more beneficial imo to help underprivileged kids from the hood grab a useful education than letting Lauren who's daddy makes $300k/yr who's there just to pop molly and bang dudes with 6-packs in between her poly-sci classes.
Education, especially University degrees, are still prerequisites for specialized roles. While they may not be a focus of the interview, many employers will not hire someone if the applicant has no educational background in some forms of the applied role. Teachers, Accountants, Researchers, etc. are all specialized positions that require University degrees. Being a manager at a warehouse requires no formal education, but the tie goes to the one with a stronger learning base. Same goes for almost every position out there -- a university degree will open doors for you comparative to someone who doesn't have one. Equal opportunity employers use that basis to hire those with a learning base because
a) it shows the applicant got through four + years of post-high school education
b) dedication to the task
c) implied strong reasoning and critical thinking abilities
d) interpersonal relationships are more likely to succeed due to broader range of acquired knowledge
It sounds stupid, but it's pretty important. My guess is that your wife and sisters might be suffering from some form of discrimination.