OT: Anything Goes 33: What'cha Drinking?
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My wife and I are in our mid-thirties, are very good shape financially, and have an amazing support network, and being parents of a nine-month old is still exhausting.
I don't see how younger (even if more energetic), less-well-off, and less-supported parents do it, especially single parents.
I don't see how younger (even if more energetic), less-well-off, and less-supported parents do it, especially single parents.
I have no support system, plenty of money, and in my late 20's. 1 son ~1.5 years and a son on the way. It's the one luxury I would love to have, but no one said life is fair.
That being said, I still want to have 3 or 4 children if God blesses us AND my wife actually agrees to get pregnant for another 18 months of her life.
I truly found purpose and peace(still working on this) in my life when I had my first son.
That being said, I still want to have 3 or 4 children if God blesses us AND my wife actually agrees to get pregnant for another 18 months of her life.
I truly found purpose and peace(still working on this) in my life when I had my first son.
No Fun Shogun
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I think two is our max. And now watch us have triplets if we have another pregnancy....
b1e9a8r5s
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Not set in stone, but we are likely to go for a 3rd this year. Got 2 girls, oldest is just over 2 years and the youngest is 9 months. We said we would think about it once the youngest is 1.
Multiples scares me, lol. Good friend of mine had a 2 year old and didn't want another. Wife talked him into a 2nd, and they had twins naturally. So now they have a 3.5 year old and 2 16 months old. They came over a while ago and it was just pure chaos, lol.
Multiples scares me, lol. Good friend of mine had a 2 year old and didn't want another. Wife talked him into a 2nd, and they had twins naturally. So now they have a 3.5 year old and 2 16 months old. They came over a while ago and it was just pure chaos, lol.
You don't waste any time eh? That means your wife has the chance of being pregnant for 27 months out of the last ~45 months. Hell of a sacrifice.
My wife said we are taking at least an extra 6 to 12 months between pregnancy this time so by the time baby number 2 is around 2 years old.
Having any child is a blessing but the chance of having multiples is the reason you wake up in the middle of the night drenched in sweat
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What possesses someone to want 4 or more kids????
Even 3 is way too many IMO.
Even 3 is way too many IMO.
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We got married "older" 34 and 35 years old, so my wife (and to a lesser extent me too) have always been concerned with her age in terms of the health of the baby, probably more so then she needs to be. I feel like they really scare women in terms of that, but obviously there are actual higher risks for complications the older the mother is.
First time took around 4-6 months to get pregnant. Second time around we figured we weren't really going to start "trying" for awhile but if it happened it happened. And wouldn't you know it basically happened as soon as it possibly could have, 7 months after the 1st, lol. So this time around, we decided we were taking a whole year at the bare minimum. I wouldn't mind waiting a bit longer, but there's only so long my wife wants to wait.
But we have been blessed to be able to get pregnant naturally with no issues, so I have no complaints. I've got so many friends who've had problems getting pregnant or have lost the pregnancy and I know how stressful that can be.
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Eh, if money, age (ours) and space in the house weren't an issue, I could see going to 4 or 5, if we had started earlier in life.
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I have two from a previous marriage. One is 18, one is 11. My fiance and I are trying for a boy now, and we'll probably stop with the one. Three is enough.
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I mean, once you've had one or two, your life has already changed in terms of your social life and all that. You can read that as "your life is already over" if you chose, lol. So at that point, your a home body and a family guy and having another kid just adds to the fun. How much more are you missing out on if you have kid 4 than if you only had 3?
I know it's cliche, but it's incredible to see a baby grow up and develop into little people with personalities of their own. Most rewarding thing I'll ever do for sure.
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1 or 2 still seems manageable to me, but once you hit 3+ it seems like you’ll have no life of your own until they’re older.
Wife and I had another talk about kids over the weekend. I keep flip flopping on the subject. Lately I’ve leaned more against to just no kids period. Can’t make up my mind.
1 or 2 and you’ll have no life of your own to be honest. Unless you have family nearby who can babysit regularly overnight.
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There's a trade off for sure. I've never been the most social person in the world, so I'm probably more comfortable with giving most of that up than a lot of people would be. That's not to say I don't wish there was some times I could just forget about my responsibilities and blow off some steam for a day or two now and then.
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We're on the same wavelength my friend. My wife and I both value "family" higher than "individual" goals/freedoms. Couldn't have said this any better myself.
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We have several friends we still hangout with regularly that have 1 or 2 kids. Just this weekend even.
Don’t think I know anyone with 3 or more, though.
The whole debate of "enjoy life while you are young, kids later", "kids now, enjoy life later", and "enjoy yourselves permanently until the end, never kids" "single forever" comes into play here.
I know several people who are edging towards 30, not married, no kids, planning the trip to Europe for 2 weeks, staying in hostels and backpacking. If it makes them happy, I am happy for them. I would love to travel Europe one day, but that is not my schtick.
I know several people who are edging towards 30, not married, no kids, planning the trip to Europe for 2 weeks, staying in hostels and backpacking. If it makes them happy, I am happy for them. I would love to travel Europe one day, but that is not my schtick.
I’d like to get a new tv, but the flatscreen I bought twelve years ago still works perfectly, good as new. Seems wasteful.
b1e9a8r5s
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You'd have to pry my TV out of my cold dead hands.
Also, what are these bars you speak of? Those sound vaguely familiar, like from a past life.
No Fun Shogun
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The more kids you have, the more likely that at least one of them is going to make it big and thereby give you a luxurious retirement.
That's just playing the long game.
No. I'm not being serious.
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Does anyone run water at night to keep their pipes from freezing? Is that a myth or something I should be doing?
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I’ve never heard of that, but sounds like a myth. If anything, the water freezing and expanding would be more likely to cause a pipe burst. As long as your house is heated your pipes should be okay. You can also insulate the pipes if you’re worried.
Not a myth, here in TX at least. Typically, in Chicago, your water heater is going to be in your basement (I believe that is how it was). In TX, we have our water heaters in our attic, one really cold spell, I had it freeze up on me and I had to wait for it to warm up outside to use my hot water again. No pipe bursting or anything.
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I’ve gotten emails for years in apartments to do that. Never did it. Never had a problem.
Shows what I know. “When the weather is very cold outside, let the cold water drip from the faucet served by exposed pipes. Running water through the pipe - even at a trickle - helps prevent pipes from freezing.”
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