A new study shows that millennials dont like sex

[kingskring]

Sam Wei, a 26-year-old financial analyst in Chicago, has not had sex since her last relationship ended 18 months ago. She makes out with guys sometimes, and she likes to cuddle.

“To me, there’s more intimacy with having someone there next to you that you can rely on without having to have sex,†she said. “I don’t want to do anything that would harm the relationship and be something that we can’t come back from.â€
It’s a less sexy time to be young than it used to be, despite millennials’ reputation as bed-hoppers frolicking like the characters on “Girls.†A study published Tuesday in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior finds that younger millennials — born in the 1990s — are more than twice as likely to be sexually inactive in their early 20s as the previous generation was. Even older millennials are more sexually active than this younger group is.

Recent research also shows that overall, millennials — people born between the early 1980s and 2000 — have fewer sexual partners than the baby boomers and those in Generation X, the group immediately preceding them.

Granted, the vast majority of young adults are still having sex, but an increasing number of them appear to be standing on the sidelines.

Delaying sex is not necessarily bad, experts say: Being intentional about when to have sex can lead to stronger relationships in the long run. The trend may also reflect women’s feeling more empowered to say no, said Stephanie Coontz, director of research at the Council on Contemporary Families.

“As people have gotten much more accepting of all sorts of forms of consensual sex, they’ve also gotten more picky about what constitutes consent ,†Coontz said. “We are far less accepting of pressured sex.â€

But some experts are concerned that the drop-off reflects the difficulty some young people are having in forming deep romantic connections. They cite other reasons for putting off sex, including pressure to succeed, social lives increasingly conducted on-screen, unrealistic expectations of physical perfection encouraged by dating apps and wariness over date rape.
Noah Patterson, 18, likes to sit in front of several screens simultaneously: a work project, a YouTube clip, a video game. To shut it all down for a date or even a one-night stand seems like a waste. “For an average date, you’re going to spend at least two hours, and in that two hours I won’t be doing something I enjoy,†he said.

It’s not that he doesn’t like women. “I enjoy their companionship, but it’s not a significant part of life,†said Patterson, a web designer in Bellingham, Wash.


He has never had sex, although he likes porn. “I’d rather be watching YouTube videos and making money.†Sex, he said, is “not going to be something people ask you for on your résumé.â€

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[Chris Hagen*]

Some day that guy will wake up and realize there's more to life than a résumé.

 

[Carolinas Identity*]

I was born in 1983 and kinda agree with this. Don't get me wrong, sex is fun and I enjoy it, but I always viewed it as a secondary compliment to a relationship and not a main part.

And I agree 100% with the chick at the start. Cuddling is a lot of fun, and can be just as intimate as sex.

 

[Dog]

I hate sex and I am abstaining until marriage

 

[jw2]

She prolly ugly.

 

[AnAceOfKidneys]

I hate sex and I am abstaining until marriage

You need to get yourself a sex robot.

 

[Cody Webster]

millennials = members of lounge

Now it makes sense

 

[John Price]

What buf oussubke

 

[Siamese Dream]

No sex in ze HF

 

[Carolinas Identity*]

sex always makes you sweaty and gross and sleepy anyways

also

i do not like sticking to my sheets tbh

 

[Habsrule]

I am born in 1983. Millennials are crazy. While they are trying to play Pokemon I am trying to play Poke-a-mom with my wife.

 

[Guerzy]

love to have sex tbh

 

[Bones Malone]

love to have sex tbh

Same

The rest of you guys are ****ing nuts

 

[DyerMaker66*]

Some day that guy will wake up and realize there's more to life than a résumé.

There's not.

 

[yubbers]

Kyle...

You're normal!

 

[JS19]

There's a lot of deep-rooted issues that explains why there is a bigger delay now than there used to be with the older generations.

1) Economy being in a worse situation than prior. Fluctuating job markets, and globalization means that a millennial has to compete with far more people to acquire a sustainable salary than older generations did. It's worth noting that it may only get worse as automation seems to be a looming threat in certain markets. Couple that with the notion that millennials are about to enter in more debt than their parents, and are less likely to own a house/car early on. In fact, these people are likely to remain in their parents' homes until their late 20s/early 30s. On the other hand, these young people are likely committing a lot more time and energy on acquiring a sustainable job/climbing the career ladder, that they don't have time to date or have sex.

2) Dating dynamics. Both sides of the gender seems to have an issue with social skills as far as dating and relationships are concerned. The fact that Sam Wei focuses on avoiding pain, and the guy saying that he'd rather "watch Youtube and play games", both of them are making reference in preferring to avoid social situations than to immerse themselves in it. Relationships are about using what you've learned in social situations and applying them. Avoiding will stifle your social skills.

 

[Dr Pepper]

I know no one in this video counts as a "millenial"....at least I don't think so.



.....but check out that view count. I bet a ton of millenials watched it, with enthusiasm.

 

[Goonzilla]

'Don't want it' is a copout for 'Can't get it'.

The guy who pretends he's more concerned about his résumé is talking BS.

Too many dorks that spend too much time on their phones and can't hold a conversation if it's not being typed.

 

[AdmiralsFan24]

Cuddling is awful.

 

[Carolinas Identity*]

Cuddling is awful.

you are doing it wrong tbh

 

[AdmiralsFan24]

you are doing it wrong tbh

Doing it right would still be awful. Get the hell away from me and let me sleep.

 

[PolishBingo]

 

[Carolinas Identity*]

Doing it right would still be awful. Get the hell away from me and let me sleep.

Not to get too graphic, but I know most of the girls I have dated have enjoyed me just holding them in bed, and as a guy, it almost gives me some weird sort of primal satisfaction knowing that I am protecting them, even though there is obviously nothing even remotely close to danger nearby.

except for maybe the cat

 

[Knave]

There's a lot of deep-rooted issues that explains why there is a bigger delay now than there used to be with the older generations.

1) Economy being in a worse situation than prior. Fluctuating job markets, and globalization means that a millennial has to compete with far more people to acquire a sustainable salary than older generations did. It's worth noting that it may only get worse as automation seems to be a looming threat in certain markets. Couple that with the notion that millennials are about to enter in more debt than their parents, and are less likely to own a house/car early on. In fact, these people are likely to remain in their parents' homes until their late 20s/early 30s. On the other hand, these young people are likely committing a lot more time and energy on acquiring a sustainable job/climbing the career ladder, that they don't have time to date or have sex.

2) Dating dynamics. Both sides of the gender seems to have an issue with social skills as far as dating and relationships are concerned. The fact that Sam Wei focuses on avoiding pain, and the guy saying that he'd rather "watch Youtube and play games", both of them are making reference in preferring to avoid social situations than to immerse themselves in it. Relationships are about using what you've learned in social situations and applying them. Avoiding will stifle your social skills.

Pretty serious post for the lounge but I agree especially with #1.

The representation of this stress is in those bank interns who have died over the past ~10 years from overworking themselves.
Working yourself to exhaustion to get and keep a job doesn't leave much room for a vibrant social life and everything that implies. If you're tired your sex drive goes down. It's really simple.

I remember hearing stories from parents and uncles about how they all basically walked into summer jobs as teens and then walked into their career field with very little trouble.
I had to network hard to get any job I have ever had and then I had to work my ass off to keep them.

It's also worth mentioning - the differences in sexual activity aren't crazy. The article is a bit hyperbolic at times.

 

[Habsrule]

Cuddling is awful.

Cuddling leads to spooning. Spooning leads to forking.