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That obviously (pretend I was witty and wrote the word obviously in the vein of his username)@ybnvs tell me what to beat up
@ybnvs
First and foremost, if you cannot afford the house on your on at all, find a way to sell it asap. Do not try to fight it for months only to bankrupt yourself.
I’m sorry she was such a . If the shit she had left there is worth anything, put it aside; if it’s not toss that shit. f*** her. But don’t let yourself get sued throwing out furniture.
She’s a beautiful dog. Love her and she’ll love you more.
But also, f*** that
@ybnvs tell me what to beat up
I'll be okay financially even without her financial contributions, I think, but I certainly wasn't expecting this as a possibility. "Our home. Our house. Our future...." sort of talk from her throughout the renovations. Basically I think it just means the projects I had intended to work on myself/have done by a professional just needs to be spaced out and planned for a little differently than I originally intended. It's trying to rework/rethink everything, and it is daunting and confusing. I do not know how to be alone, yet. Like I said, I've been staying with family since the breakup because it's hard for me to face going there. But, that and other reasons are why I am also in therapy.
I have also contemplated with selling. I feel so f***ing stupid if I do that, though. Like, a major set-back personally. The greatest positive about this house is that I had 50% equity through inheritance going into the process. Still, the financial aspect is definitely a major change to consider for everything necessary in home ownership and the work necessary to make it feel "complete" (which I realize it NEVER will be. What home is?). For example: My next project is to rewire the whole house (which I am not going to do myself). No grounding anywhere. So I'll start in the kitchen, first, then the living room, and yeah... go from there...
Thanks man. I can't say F* that B* quite yet to myself. Part of me feels like I'm just trapped in a nightmare and I'll wake up soon. Blahhhh
Thanks man, but I am a lover not a fighter. Never in my life have I swung at someone or been swung at. So can I just have a hug?
We need some good news in these threads.
Dogs are WAY too good for us sorry humans so we have to do the best we can to deserve them.The rescue dog I adopted yesterday is pure bliss. She is such a gooooood girl! I am astonished at how easy she has been thus far knowing her history. I am so in love with her.
I'll be okay financially even without her financial contributions, I think, but I certainly wasn't expecting this as a possibility. "Our home. Our house. Our future...." sort of talk from her throughout the renovations. Basically I think it just means the projects I had intended to work on myself/have done by a professional just needs to be spaced out and planned for a little differently than I originally intended. It's trying to rework/rethink everything, and it is daunting and confusing. I do not know how to be alone, yet. Like I said, I've been staying with family since the breakup because it's hard for me to face going there. But, that and other reasons are why I am also in therapy.
I have also contemplated with selling. I feel so f***ing stupid if I do that, though. Like, a major set-back personally. The greatest positive about this house is that I had 50% equity through inheritance going into the process. Still, the financial aspect is definitely a major change to consider for everything necessary in home ownership and the work necessary to make it feel "complete" (which I realize it NEVER will be. What home is?). For example: My next project is to rewire the whole house (which I am not going to do myself). No grounding anywhere. So I'll start in the kitchen, first, then the living room, and yeah... go from there...
Thanks man. I can't say F* that B* quite yet to myself. Part of me feels like I'm just trapped in a nightmare and I'll wake up soon. Blahhhh
Thanks man, but I am a lover not a fighter. Never in my life have I swung at someone or been swung at. So can I just have a hug?
The wedding day was absolutely perfect. Somehow, someway, not a thing went wrong...other than the florist doing a subpar job with the floral arrangements. We lucked out and the weather cleared out just in time for our first look. She looked absolutely beautiful.We need some good news in these threads.
Congrats man, soak it all in on the honeymoon!The wedding day was absolutely perfect. Somehow, someway, not a thing went wrong...other than the florist doing a subpar job with the floral arrangements. We lucked out and the weather cleared out just in time for our first look. She looked absolutely beautiful.
The first looked definitely helped with the nerves. During the whole church ceremony, I didn't feel nervous at all. There were no nerves when we were up on the alter doing our vows.
The reception was incredible. There was so much food, unfortunately, I barely got to try any of it, but everyone raved about the place/food, so that was awesome. Our first dance went well, only danced for like 2 minutes, but that was plenty. I'm not one that usually dances, but I had enough liquid courage and was having a great time, I was out on the dance floor most of the night. Didn't get a chance to visit the dessert room or have any cake either.
The after party was great. Hotel was great and they had a bar that they kept open until 1. We had an ice sculpture as part of our dessert area and one of the guys managed to walk out with the ice sculpture, bring it on the bus, and put it in the hotel lobby
The day was amazing and I am shocked at how smooth everything went.
We're in St Lucia now. Got here today. Had a few drinks and are getting ready to head to dinner. Place is absolutely amazing
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There was so much food, unfortunately, I barely got to try any of it
The rescue dog I adopted yesterday is pure bliss. She is such a gooooood girl! I am astonished at how easy she has been thus far knowing her history. I am so in love with her.
As terrible as the situation you are in now is, I can see an awesome future where as you're physically fixing up the house, you're also healing emotionally. A physical representation of you going through the whole experience, right down to the house not having any grounding while you're looking to find your grounding as your next project. And amazingly enough, you don't have to do either one by yourself.
And this even sounds like the tag line for that time period for you: "...everything necessary in home ownership and the work necessary to make it feel "complete (which I realize it NEVER will be. What home is?)".
I agree exactly. What home is?
I'm finally caught up on your situation. First of all, the only thing that will heal the human separation is time. I'm sure you know that, but if you don't, trust me - everything will be fine. Deep breaths and dog cuddles and let the days pass. Secondly, that dog's name should be Biscuit. It's close enough to the (horrendous) original name some sociopath gave her that she won't be confused if she has gotten used to it, and it's much less horrendous.
You're welcome.
The wedding day was absolutely perfect. Somehow, someway, not a thing went wrong...other than the florist doing a subpar job with the floral arrangements. We lucked out and the weather cleared out just in time for our first look. She looked absolutely beautiful.
The first looked definitely helped with the nerves. During the whole church ceremony, I didn't feel nervous at all. There were no nerves when we were up on the alter doing our vows.
The reception was incredible. There was so much food, unfortunately, I barely got to try any of it, but everyone raved about the place/food, so that was awesome. Our first dance went well, only danced for like 2 minutes, but that was plenty. I'm not one that usually dances, but I had enough liquid courage and was having a great time, I was out on the dance floor most of the night. Didn't get a chance to visit the dessert room or have any cake either.
The after party was great. Hotel was great and they had a bar that they kept open until 1. We had an ice sculpture as part of our dessert area and one of the guys managed to walk out with the ice sculpture, bring it on the bus, and put it in the hotel lobby
The day was amazing and I am shocked at how smooth everything went.
We're in St Lucia now. Got here today. Had a few drinks and are getting ready to head to dinner. Place is absolutely amazing
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Real sorry about your situation, dude. I don't have a specific suggestion for her name, but maybe something that reminds you of the unexpected joy she's brought into your life. A way to try to make something positive out of the whole thing. Just spitballing. Good luck and keep your head up!I've read your post 100 times. It's really striking a chord with me. Resonating and vibrating. Brilliantly beautiful. Simple and attainable. Thank you. It makes a lot of sense.
Thank you CDP. Much love. I appreciate your words.
Hibiscus is truly horrible. Whoever decided upon her name should never be counted on for making any kind of decisions in the future, ever. Though Biscuit, as you said, is almost arguably just as bad. I'm sure it'll come to me within the next day or so, but I can't go too long without naming her.
She's showing a lot of signs of intelligence. It has got to be a good one. She deserves it.
Whiskey!
(Foul language)
Hibiscus is truly horrible. Whoever decided upon her name should never be counted on for making any kind of decisions in the future, ever. Though Biscuit, as you said, is almost arguably just as bad. I'm sure it'll come to me within the next day or so, but I can't go too long without naming her.
I wouldn’t worry too much about whether or not the name sounds like “Hibiscus”. Whatever you decide on, once you start using it with her she’ll figure it out pretty quick.I've read your post 100 times. It's really striking a chord with me. Resonating and vibrating. Brilliantly beautiful. Simple and attainable. Thank you. It makes a lot of sense.
Thank you CDP. Much love. I appreciate your words.
Hibiscus is truly horrible. Whoever decided upon her name should never be counted on for making any kind of decisions in the future, ever. Though Biscuit, as you said, is almost arguably just as bad. I'm sure it'll come to me within the next day or so, but I can't go too long without naming her.
She's showing a lot of signs of intelligence. It has got to be a good one. She deserves it.